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 No.977[Reply]

why do animals like birds and butterflies have wings, but i don't? it's not fair... i don't want to be chained down by gravity! i wish i had wings!

 No.1000

You can learn how to fly anon

 No.1002

>>1000
How?

 No.1032

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>>1000
>>1002
woah!! i just figured out how to fly! the answer came to me while i was meditating. i'm going to build my own glider!

and >>1000, epic post!



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 No.738[Reply]

lets love other people
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 No.966

There's too much focus on gatekeeping. People forget that more goes into making a community than setting up barriers that keep party poopers out. A community needs values. e.g. phreak BBSs back in the 80s had their own code of honor. You don't rat people out. You share your knowledge. You do what you do for the love of the hack. Never hurt ordinary people. This is where 4chan went wrong. There's no values there aside from lolz and sticking it to normalfags. No wonder it went sideways.

>>965
All communities are going to have their unwritten rules. If those are just there's nothing wrong with forcing people to play by them. The issue is when a userbase becomes a hivemind of drones obsessed with conforming to a code. e.g. a certain type of poster who will freak out and become hostile whenever they see X type of content posted and reply with the same insults, slurs, and images. "when see X, do Y" is burned in their brain. This kind of thing is a problem on social networks too but its more noticable on anonymous sites because its the only way users can signal what internet tribe they belong to.

All of this stuff is off topic anyway. I wish I could love other people but I'm always worried they are being insincere and they are actually nasty and hostile but being fake nice. So I do what I can to stay away from people.

 No.973

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>>965
>>966
mean sites that let you post with no name do have values, though! like not breaking any laws! and FREE SPEECH!

 No.988

>>965
>You can't deny that complete anonymity in combination with attracting a large number of certain users can lead to bringing out the worst of each other
But I can deny that this is an element of anonymous image boards specifically and not part of the broader human experience. That happens everywhere, to everyone, online and off.

>adjust to their culture, or you will get ruled out
yes generally you are supposed to integrate into a culture of a place and not fight it, anon. if you dont fit with the culture, change or fit somewhere else. Expecting a group to automatically accept you without you having to actually put in the effort to fit in with them is very silly. Its something I've noticed a lot of normals do, prying open communities they dont belong to or fit in with, only to destroy them and then move on. I don't understand the mentality.

> group-thinking is a thing even in places where posts cannot be easily traced to users
to a lesser extent sure, humans are social animals after all

>by making burner accounts and posting something valuable for example
a significant portion of reddit does not allow you to participate unless you have lots of their upvotes accumulated. burner accounts dont work for this. new accounts and low score accounts are also more often than not flagged automatically for moderation when posting at all. so this is not possible in practice, and I think its a bit ironic for you to be complaining about groupthink, when the penultimate example of groupthinking communities gets brought up. It may not be perfect, but anonymous imageboards are far and above forums with user accounts.

 No.992

>>973
Sure, they can be moralistic and have ideals they cling to but there's no ethics there and whatever values you find on those sites just aren't good when taken by themselves. e.g. emphasis on being contrarian, as amoral as the law will allow. sticking it the normies, and not giving a fuck by itself is a terrible rule to live by. If you take that to the extreme its just self-destructive.

 No.994

>>988
>But I can deny that this is an element of anonymous image boards specifically and not part of the broader human experience. That happens everywhere, to everyone, online and off.
Sure, but a large role plays anonymity and the place in itself that fosters that behaviour.

> you dont fit with the culture, change or fit somewhere else.
Maybe I expressed myself wrong there, obviously I don't expect 4chan to change according to my will alone, I search for places that I like, and avoid those I don't agree with. Having different cultures is nothing bad, for example I like this place here specifically for it, and don't want it to change into change into 4chan for the sake of attracting more people.
There is a difference between coming to a place and expecting it to change to your will, and being a regular and not wanting it to change into something I am not used to from that place.

Regarding reddit, I was also talking about forums in general, and like you say, some parts of reddit have those rules in place, not all of them. Avoid places like that, and my point still stands, based on a username alone you're not much more exposed than someone posting on an imageboard. I brought up groupthinking exactly because some act like there are worlds between a forum and an imageboard when in reality that's not the case at all, up/downvoting is groupthinking on a larger scale, but like I said, you also have that on imageboards, only in another way and not as obvious, either way it's ignorant to argue about a definitive way of what is "above" in the end, it depends on so much context.



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 No.906[Reply]

I can see myself killing myself within the next few years. I know why. I'm afraid I will be all alone for the rest of my life. And if that continues on for the next couple years, I will lose all hope.
I don't know how to make friends, the long lasting kind, the close kind. What I see as what I have right now, and all that I will have in the future, is no close friends, no lover, just surface level relations with people and my lonely self. I wasn't like this before. I didn't care about human relations. I was happy in my room, tapping away at my keys, making stupid niche software that only I needed for my own personal use.
Though, even back then, somewhere in me, I knew I had to stop doing that eventually. My family wasn't so well off that the generational wealth could sustain a hikineet for life. I knew I had to get out into the real world, interact with people, earn income, learn to live on my own. Naively, I figured it wouldn't be so hard. I just need to be welcoming towards strangers and I can get by with my own life without trouble.
About a year ago, I moved to a different state, thought I'd start life anew. But now I feel the loneliness in my ways, and even more so the fear of it going on for the rest of my life.
I think I know what's stopping me from having friends, I don't hang out with people that are around me. I'd rather be in my room, in front of the computer. I don't care about having friends that will make me compromise. That's the other thing, I'm not willing to compromise for people, friends. If they're not "up to my standards", then I don't want to be with them. As simple as that. And I plan to stick with that.






Venting, or expressing your feelings with words, really is a good way to get a proper look at yourself and assess one's current situation. As retarded and annoying as it sounds, I'm just love-struck. I don't care for a single soul in the world, but am unreasonably obsessed with that single soul that my mind has grown attached to. And the fear of not being with them is what's keeping me up all night. Haven't felt this in decades. It was not the fact that I might "not have friends all my life". Fuck close friends that I need to change my ways to be with. I don't want them.
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 No.907

Yeah, I want to die too.

 No.908

>>907
Just need to get yourself a hobby that doesn't involve sitting in your room, alone

Doesn't matter wtf it is, fuckin archery or beekeeping, fuck even simping over trains or something.

just get out.
drive.
there's nothing that swallows your soul more than sitting festering away in a room, essentially being on pause between events, loneliness has killed more men than ebola.

 No.909

>>908
No, thanks. I don't care anymore. Still /kind/ of you to suggest someting.



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 No.766[Reply]

the universe is really big, friends... it's so big, that on the grand scale of things, most of what we do will not matter much...

what do you think?
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>>814
The world always appreciates beautiful dreamers...

 No.817

>>811
Why does everything have to be conquered by humanity? Just enjoy your short time here. If it were small enough for us to see and conquer all of it, we'd get bored.

 No.818

>>817
But what if I am enjoying my time here by conquering everything?

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>>814
>>815
>>817
if you turned into an ice cube while you were sleeping, couldn't you have beautiful dreams... forever?

>>818
you sound like an AI from some 4X game. don't forget to explore, expand, and exploit too!

 No.887

>>766
Elizabeth from Bioshock says something like "We all swim in different oceans but land on the same shore"
And the first time playing I was like, well that's stupid, why bother playing at all then. But the point is that I still have to play, doesn't matter how small I am, or that there may be a reality where I'm pooping killer insects out of my hands, I have to make the best out of my own reality.



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 No.580[Reply]

So me and this girl have been talking recently and she's really mentally ill. she confessed her feelings to me and out of panic I kind of just said yes. I'm scared that if I tell her I don't wanna do this anymore she'll hurt herself real bad.
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 No.791

>>789
thats not a kind thing to say >:(

 No.793

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>>580
>>789
>>791
hey, hey, hey!! everyone does retarded things sometimes!! but as long as you learn from your mistakes, being retarded is fine!!

 No.853

>>793
i don't learn from my mistakes sadly

 No.862

>>789
Its not retarded. If you make a promise to someone you have to fufill it. A relationship is a two way thing and unless you can end it amicably then you shouldn't just back out by yourself abandoning the other person. Even if its a relationship you didn't actually want but consented to anyway. You have to do right by the other person at least. There's nothing wrong with wanting to leave a relationship. But its immoral and dishonorable not to meet your commitments. OP will have to at least try the relationship and let it run its course (even if he ends it early) and not just ghost her or something. People don't deserve abandonment.

 No.863

>>862
Doing that is beneficial to no one.



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 No.517[Reply]

Does one strive to kill the ego?
It seems to have benefits to your current self, paradoxically...
For example, those without an ego can't get slighted or depressed because they have no attachments.

There seems to be some posters who border ego-death around here.
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 No.842

I just take it easy.

 No.843

The first step is to accept that the ego is an illusion. There is no "you" or "I" that persists from one moment to the next. There are only different sensations, memories, feelings, perceptions the mind falsely tie together into a single identity. This identity is the source of our suffering. When you genuinely realize this truth you will experience ego-death. Intellectually grasping this idea and genuinely knowing it in your heart are seperate things. That's the hardest part and there's no easy guide for that.

 No.846

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>>843
cool idea! but there's a problem here. if the ego's an illusion, and the mind exists, what would it mean for the mind to die? think about it. you can't have one without the other!

 No.852

>>841
I have no idea and only take parts of these philosophies that kinda suit me, so I may be talking out of my ass, but my thoughts on this are:
Ego death doesn't mean you walk around the rest of your life like a vegetable, it's gaining and living with the knowledge that you aren't different from anybody on a spiritual level and as a result won't get emotionally upset because of something that happens to.You can still have ambitions for example, but won't despair should they not come true. It's like a near-death experience, you gain a whole new way of looking at things for the rest of your life.

 No.861

>>846
I misspoke. The mind is just as illusory as the ego. We intuitively link together different fleeting mental states and tie them together with a single shared identity and call it mind, or ego, or self or I or me. Fleeting pieces held together with psychological duct tape.



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 No.1519[Reply]

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 No.1520

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 No.739[Reply]

If you're reading this, hey, make this new year a good one
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 No.807

>>804
What resources are you using?

 No.808

>>807
I'm using this for Arabic
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Alfiyya_of_Ibn_Malik

For Japanese I guess I'll go with Tae Kim. I want to go through the textbooks on classical Japanese but I need to have basic Japanese down first and I'm trying to master the kana right now.

 No.812

>>808
Oh. I learned Japanese with Lingodeer a while back for a short time and felt like I was making progress with it. I had no experience whatsoever going in. I ended up forgetting a lot of what I learned though.

 No.823

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>>808
learning from textbooks is a waste of time. you can learn japanese faster by watching videos!
>>812
that sucks, but maybe it's for the best? lingodeer is not free, after all. as for me, i've learned japanese by playing games. if you want to do the same, try playing kawaiidungeon! it's free!

 No.824

>>823
I'd already paid for Lingodeer, so it's not like the financial aspect was a concern for me. It doesn't really bother me that I've forgotten things either. If I want to try learning another language, I'd focus on German. I know bits and pieces of it from taking it in school for years but am not fluent at all. I think it would be more useful to me than Japanese, not that it wouldn't be nice to be able to speak Japanese too.



 No.1521[Reply]

Anything you feel like you need to say? Get it off your chest.

One thing about me is that sadly, I'm very cold by nature. It is extremely difficult for me to get close to people or even speak to them normally. I just feel horrible speaking to most people. But that isn't all; one other problem that arises as a result is that I can never get married or love someone. If I found that girl who was absolutely perfect for me, cute and sweet and likes all the stuff I do, has the same goals in life I do and finds within me someone to spend her life with, I'd be afraid of her. I don't know why; I always thought it was as a result of sexual abuse I sustained as a child causing me to fear intimacy, but honestly I start to wonder if it's even that. Yet I fantasize, I continue to fantasize of us playing video games together, joking around, eating together and sharing joy, and even maybe having children. My existence is a theater of fantasies and dreams that can never be realized because of my inaction and fear.

 No.1522

That's sad anon, it does sound like some issue outside the abuse you faced as a child..
Keep trying to connect to people, try to find things of interest in their lives, something you relate with, you will perhaps start enjoying talking to people.
And I hope you find someone you want to love.

I don't have a lot to get off my chest. some days I feel like I'm not as motivated as I used to be about wanting to improve myself. It pains me because that was the part of me I respected.

 No.1523

(ik this thing is 10 months old but I don't really care, I'm kind of hoping no one sees this)
Trauma can do crazy things to a person's brain, I'd know... I hope things have gotten better for you.

I'm hypersexual. But at the same time, I'm afraid of intimacy with anyone I trust or care about. It creates this awful cycle where I'd rather go to my own abusers than to people who would actually respect me or treat me with any decency. Because being treated that way is unfamiliar and the person who treated me "nicely" before in a non-platonic context was manipulating and psychologically abusing me while using just enough nice words to keep me tricked for a half a year.
Sometimes I wonder what the point in trying to get better is, when it's so much easier to break myself down further. Sometimes I think it's something inherent for me to be like this. I feel like a hentai trope.
I recently got away from my latest abuser (who's much older than me), but I keep calling him... I don't know how to explain it. It's so hard to stop, at least he gives me attention.
At some point in being abused, especially sexually abused, if you adopt a certain way of coping, you learn to like the pain, and you start to feel like you deserve it. And then when it's finally over, you can't move on because not having that pain anymore feels like a void you need to fill.

 No.1524

>>1521
I can relate to this. I was never abused or anything, but I feel like my childhood messed me up. I was an undiagnosed autist who had no idea about my condition up until my teenage years. I was homeschooled through part of elementary school, which I don't regret at all, but when I was placed alongside other kids I realized I was socially awkward and didn't really fit in with other kids. I did manage to make some friends (and even had some girls show interest in me but have never made any moves), but it's been a long and painful journey to try and camouflage my condition. I'm a loner by nature, don't like having to interact with most people, and often wish I could just disappear and become invisible. At the same time, I crave affection and someone to spend my life with but don't even see how it could work out. I like to think I'm okay at hiding the fact that I'm a reclusive wizard when it comes to quick interactions with other people, but the pain at feeling like a worthless misfit is still there to some degree.

 No.1525

I always feel very stressed and burned out for some reason. I spend all day doing nothing but I still feel drained by the end of it.

 No.1526

>>1525
Your problem might be doing nothing. Are there any small things you can do for a sense of accomplishment? Cleaning up your home, cooking a meal, even taking a shower or going for a walk.

Humans evolved to want to do things with our hands, so getting off the screen and doing something physical is way better than sitting in one place doing nothing. It really does work.



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