/kind/ - Random Acts of Kindness

Ahh to be young~~~
It's not common to go back to being "friends". You usually go back to being acquaintances and hopefully not enemies. People aren't generally friends with their exes even if it sounds nice on paper. It's better to go separate ways if you don't plan to date and the breakup is not amicable.
As for cheering up, I recommend hobbies. Something that requires a bit of effort during the day, you can save the mindless consumption for later in the day for when you're too tired to think about things. 頑張れ！

>>1791
watch a fun documentary! you'll feel better and you'll learn something new!

If I may ask, if you feel this bad about it why do you think you made the correct decision? What lead you to think this?

>>1792
I don't think so. Some people if their relationship didnt work out as long as it didnt end on a particularly bad note they go back to being friends in those cases. Some people it's too painful to be around someone they dated before though.

>>1791
If it's a mutual breakup, you can still be friends, but if it wasn't, well... it's just that this shit genuinely fucking hurts and it's not always easy to go back to the state you were before in. It usually is better to go back to separate ways, and I say this having managed to remain friends with 2 of 3 of my exes.

To feel better, watch something comfy, like Azumanga Daioh. Go outside on a walk, let the time go by and dull the pain. It just takes time.

>>1794
>If I may ask, if you feel this bad about it why do you think you made the correct decision? What lead you to think this?
We were very good friends before we started dating, and then less than a month in he started to try to control my finances. He told me that he loved me on the second day. He talked about moving in together on the 3rd day (he lives halfway across the country, he wanted me to come to him).

He also promised me that we would just be trying it out, and that we could go back if it didnt.

>>1842
woah! your BF got close really fast. it sounds like the dating was supposed to be casual...

well, i don't see anything wrong with your decision. besides the hurt feelings, that is... but that's to be expected in any failed relationship!

>>1842
Did you try to talk things over with him asking why he is trying to control your finances and did you explain how you didn't like that? If so and he still didn't adapt maybe in time he would get better with his issues and you could always go back to dating again at that point if you are able to keep contact without it being a problem for you and if you're both single by then. Who knows maybe it being a break up but you not cutting him off cold will give him a chance to think about things. Good luck.

All this relationship talk is making me feel out of place..

>>1871
Same. I am very surprised to see people have/had some. Honestly, I am also surprised to see that people have friends. Generally that people have a social life.

>>1871
People have met up IRL and had s*x because of /kind/. Let that sink in. Also don't ask me how I know this.

>>1873
hey can i unread this k thx

>>1871
Ive never had a romantic partner in the formal sense. It has always been LDR's with friends.

>>1856
>your BF got close really fast
It was uncomfortable for the start really but I liked him a lot so I decided that I was just being too exacting with my requirements
>>1869
>Did you try to talk things over with him asking why he is trying to control your finances and did you explain how you didn't like that?
I did, he took it as an insult. It did not go well.
>>1875
>>1872
>>1871
This is a LDR situation yes, I dont really have any IRLs. When it comes to IRLs, I've always been very harshly bullied, and communicating via text is much easier for me.

>>1873
Someone should be kind to me like that.

>>1842
>>1880
It sounds like a classic example of love bombing, he might be NPD or BPD.
Either way, things are bound to go badly regardless of what you do, these people are difficult because they don't know how to interact with others normally. Be ready to put down various threats against you or himself.
>>1873
wuaaah i want to meet up with somebody
I've tried to hookup with a few different people on 4chan but it never went anywhere
I have BPD myself, but i swear i can be a decent partner
We could get under the blankets, cuddle, and melt into eachothers' arms falling asleep

>>1880
>When it comes to IRLs, I've always been very harshly bullied
you shouldn't let them bully you! set some boundaries so you can stop this from happening in the future!
>>1892
lots of people meet up on tinder and have sex!