/kind/ - Random Acts of Kindness

>>1505
I think you'd have to try and find people in your area through the Internet unless you live in a big city. I don't have any friends anymore, so I'm not exactly an expert.

>>1506
but i do live in a big city. i’m currently a resident of seattle and as of next year i’ll be moving to los angeles. how do you make friends in the big city?

the seattle freeze is a very real thing :-C

>>1507
I don't know then. I live in a small city and always felt I'd have been able to find people with more similar interests in a much bigger one. I also feel like pickings would have better a decade ago. I remember going to one of those imageboard meetup sites and seeing people listed even in my area who might have been interesting to talk to. As time goes on, it seems like people's interests get further and further from my own. Most zoomers feel downright alien to me.

>>1508
>As time goes on, it seems like people's interests get further and further from my own. Most zoomers feel downright alien to me.

i get this a ton because *i’m* a zoomer (b. 2004)… i got into anime because my dad owned it on vhs and stuff. it feels like so many people just kind of move with the current trend waves (especially in bigger cities) and it becomes so much harder to find friends with similar interests. usually the only people who like the same stuff i do usually have autism which makes them antisocial and stuff so it’s just a very self destructive cycle :-C but i’m still gonna try

there’s a model toy store in chinatown so maybe i’ll check that out. or more comic/hobby stores. i don’t think it’s over just yet but i don’t really know what to do otherwise. it’s pretty distressing not having any friends because i’m not antisocial or anything, just forgettable i guess. but these are fixable issues…

>>1509
>i get this a ton because *i’m* a zoomer (b. 2004)… i got into anime because my dad owned it on vhs and stuff. it feels like so many people just kind of move with the current trend waves (especially in bigger cities) and it becomes so much harder to find friends with similar interests. usually the only people who like the same stuff i do usually have autism which makes them antisocial and stuff so it’s just a very self destructive cycle :-C but i’m still gonna try
Sounds like you've got it pretty rough then. I'm over a decade older than you, but I've always found it hard enough to deal with people my own age. My case is similar to yours where I grew up with stuff from before my time, but at least back in the '90s and early 2000s a lot of those things hadn't been seen as niche interests or memoryholed yet. I feel more close culturally to Gen-Xers and early Millennials, but even most of them seem to cling to the latest fads in the way that you mention. As far as things like music, movies, TV, and video games go, most of the stuff I really like is decades old. Some of the stuff I'm into my grandparents would consider old hat.
>there’s a model toy store in chinatown so maybe i’ll check that out. or more comic/hobby stores. i don’t think it’s over just yet but i don’t really know what to do otherwise. it’s pretty distressing not having any friends because i’m not antisocial or anything, just forgettable i guess. but these are fixable issues…
I have the same problems that you mention but am also enough of an asocial autist that I have problems maintaining relationships. If it wasn't for my family, I don't know what I'd do.

>>1507
Hey, I'm also in Seattle and like 60-80s anime. What do you want to talk about?

As for making friends in real life...I also do yarn crafts, so I started going to a weekly knitting circle, but I'm not friends with the other people there. It is nice to hang out and socialize IRL every so often, though. I've met up with some other yarn craft people, but the problem is that we'll both have life things and next thin you know six months have passed and it feels weird to always be the one reaching out. I don't have a solution there, past "keep reaching out", maybe "set up a scheduled time to hang out once a month so you're both committed", but that's once you already have a relationship.

Have you had any luck yet, OP?

>>1505
That's a pretty tough hobby you've got there, OP? I'm pretty big on anime myself and if all you wanted to talk about was stuff from the 60-80s we'd probably have nothing to talk about after an hour, haha. Ever thought about branching out your interests? Music, Movies, Board Games, Books, Dancing, Yoga, Martial Arts, Arts and Crafts, Drawing, Woodwork etc?

>>1509
You're pretty young still, have you tried checking out local university societies (if you even go to university)? I was able to make my entire current irl friend group from going to the vidya/anime society they had there and discovered a lot of those guys loved retro gaming and anime and I talked about it with them all the time. It's my go to for younger anons and even freshers at uni, uni soc's are some of the best places to meet like minded people.

Check out the community centers and stuff around your area too, might be a good shout if you're looking for friends.

I'd also say that comic cons can be great places to meet people, if you see someone cosplaying a character you like you can usually run up to them and just be like "woah cool cosplay" and get a conversation going, in some cases you can add their contact info and become friends with them. Meetups are good for this especially if you can cosplay a character from that, I went to an Ace Attorney meetup a few years back and joined a discord full of AA fans and while I'm not super active there anymore, it seems like it's full of like minded people that just wanna be friends and have a fun time over a shared interest.

Hope I helped you man.

>>1505
Anime conventions. You will find most people there revolting, as any sane person would, but it can be pretty funny. Anyways, check out some of the panels, there's usually someone doing something on classic anime. Go there and talk to some people. Could be good.

I'm trying to figure that out myself, OP. I started going to these places that are designed for people with issues to make friends and get help and I'm trying to enjoy myself there. There's one with a pool table with no chalk. Sometimes people bring chalk but I've never played with chalk there. There's another where they can help you find jobs. Staff members at this one are supposed to be indistinguishable from club members, and they may have some pretty silly staff members but I don't know. I was thinking of going to a night club last night but I've been feeling what I think may be depression so I opted not to go. I don't drink but I don't have the money to pay the entry fee at a lot of the places I'd want to try, right now. I've never met my internet friends in real life. I've talked to people online and met them in person but they've never been people I really considered myself having been friendly with on a level that made me feel a special bond with them. Anyhow, I think that this is a personal question that you can answer yourself. It's good you're looking for resources on how you can make friends. Personally, after high school, virtually all of my connections that I've have some reverence for have been made online. I'm trying to change that.

>>1513
You sound pretty cool. I just wanted to say that