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>>6465
In the book The Way of the Bodhisattva there’s this helpful line that I liked about “remaining as a log of wood” when you begin to feel anger coming on. The basic idea is to take time to pause and not react right away. I've started doing that, and honestly just giving myself a few seconds to breathe before saying anything back makes a huge difference in how I respond to frustrating situations.

>>6465
Change your diet. No seriously, anything you consumed that was non-gluten free is turning you into a schizo.I've already stop eating white bread decade ago and I feel more calm now than ever when dealing with stress.

>>6466
I don't have the discipline for that. When anger comes on its hard to step back and take notice. It happens fast too and can last a long while.

>>6467
I'll try it. I eat a pretty good diet already.

>>6474
>I don't have discipline for that
There is no magic solution that takes no effort. Part of your struggle will be learning to recognize when you are letting your anger get the best of you and acting upon that realization. I don't have a specific solution for you, because I am not you, but training yourself to recognize when you are stepping over the line and taking a moment to breathe is genuinely good advice.
>>6467
This is only even possibly true if you have an underlying condition, like Celiac disease or some other kind of gluten sensitivity. It will not work for most people and if anything will negatively impact otherwise healthy people by giving them issues with gluten. A good, rounded diet and healthy sleeping habits is good advice but "just don't eat gluten bro" likely won't do anything. Unless, once again, they have an underlying issue with gluten already.

>>6465
Taking the practice of observing your own thoughts as they come without judging them or evaluating them as good or bad. Holding it lightly enough to not be overly concerned with whether you think they're justified or not. Practice this enough and you'll be able to nudge things towards directions you want by letting things run their natural course in your head, the key point is understanding that change requires constant mediation between conflicting thoughts that aren't easily reconciable. You're being prompted to react in a certain way, there are reasons why you're reacting in this or that way, and you're able to find and articulate why this is true by self-observation and finding the patterns until you're able to catch yourself doing it while it's currently happening. Maybe the anger is justified, maybe it's not, but it's hard to know if you're acting without even being able to think.

>>6482
The hard part is knowing what to do once you see the anger coming. Today I planned to go someplace but because my backpack broke I couldn't go. I was able to stop myself from exploding but it still ruined my day and made doing other stuff impossible.

>>6486
If we're going to continue with the buddhist approach then meeting anger with understanding and kind-intentions would be approaching an answer. Although I think the need to express your anger outwardly would be different from feeling anger due to whatever factors that lead to it, and kind-intention wouldn't be a solution to either of these feelings. You didn't explode but that anger still was expressed by making your day worse, but maybe the source of it changed as your plans for the day had to be confronted and changed, reminding yourself of what you wanted and what you've missed out on because of the accident. I don't know. Evaluating what's actually been lost and what could be salvaged, what could be gained, what could be learned, basically just aiming for a practical solution rather than focusing purely on the emotional response. And perhaps just learning what tools are available for the hard problem of figuring out what to do with the anger. I found learning what makes me angry and why I think it's justified made me a lot less angry in general, since I have something to work with that's not just my brain deciding I am upset, without my input.

Although now that I think about it approaching your anger with good faith is the first step to learning what causes it and deepening your understanding of it. So perhaps being kind is necessary.

>>6487
Yeah this helped thanks. I've found exercise helps a lot but it can depend on what causes the anger because sometimes dwelling on a cause only prolongs the anger. I try to distract myself with something that I might enjoy, but that doesn't always work because the negative thoughts I'm having ruin what I'm trying to enjoy.

>that anger still was expressed by making your day worse
That's an issue I'm dealing with right now. Even if I don't lash out, I carry those feelings with me all day and it ruins things.

>>6465
When someone really annoys me in a face-to-face conversation, which happens very rarely, I might raise my voice at them and tell them to use their brain and think before speaking/acting.

But usually, instead of anger I feel crushing disappointment in the society I live in and the stupidity and ugliness of everyday people. In such cases, I drink and watch anime.

>>6495
At a certain point once the initial anger subsides it quickly becomes a game of anticipating anger and preparing to react, that's to say, you're building the conditions that necessitate a cause and a reaction. So learning how to not even think about letting go or holding on after you've fleshed out and understood your anger was the next step for me. There's nothing more to respond or react to, there's nothing more to consider, and feeding into the anger no longer addresses or is even about the cause of my anger. The ultimate goal is seamlessly transitioning from provocation towards an action that I consider beneficial, so as to not dwell on anger, and in order to not dwell I need to stop considering anger to be a topic to think about. I'm just responding to you as if you had a similar thought process to me, so I don't know if this applies, but this is how it went for me.