>Where can I get actually good advice?
Ask on an online forum.
>have no idea what to do
What do you want to achieve?

Asking here is somewhat pointless since I sense most of us are in the same boat as OP.

Love is dead anyway. Its only something you see in anime now. It doesn't happen in the real world. Dating apps killed it.

Doubt the replies you'll get when asking for relationship advice will be much different than asking chatGPT the same questions.

>>3576
I mean, you could say this every time someone asks anything on an online forum. AI will be the death of forums. No, of society itself. Why even ask anyone anything at all when you can just chatGPT it.

>>3574
This can't be! The gay virgins of /kind/ will know the answer. Maybe friend will come and say disemboweling is the way to a woman's heart?

The others put it more tartly than I would, but they're right. You can't use a search engine to walk you through your life. Posting to a forum is the same principle. I don't know you. I can't even begin to help you even with your personal, singular struggles, let alone your outward struggles involving more than just you. You already have everything to piece together what to do with the relationships in your life. I know it's barely anything, but it's all you're ever going to have. All we could do with you is cobble you with what you already know, that a lover needs to be a best friend, that we as humans are designed to come together, that love is giving and taking, that love is both a connection that forms itself and a duty to uphold that connection, relationships require effort and require you to be vulnerable, yak yak. Everyone knows this and reciting it is a pointless exercise. Companionship is not a given nor a right in this life. Neither is isolation. Either relationships will be formed with the people in your life or they won't. You have to be ready to adapt to either scenario. I'm sorry it has to be this way. I hope you can find good friends to keep you.

I wasn’t asking for you guys to hook me up or something. I just want to know where I can find good advice on how to dress, does and donts. Jesus you people really are useless.

>>3573
What are you supposed to wear for a first date? It can’t be too formal or casual right? What’s a good location for a first date etc

>>3588
ask your parents maybe, they tend to have good advice (even if it can be a bit dated) or any other adult that's married and shit

honestly i think you just have to dress how you normally do in public, maybe with cologne/perfume? you don't have to go over the top because if it lasts for even a week eventually they're gonna figure out how you usually dress lol but maybe they'll think the effort is charming

to me relationships always felt like normal friendships but with extra steps. most important thing is that you both communicate with each other what you do and don't want. that's kind of it. be nice to them, giving small gifts is the ticket to one's heart (their favourite snack, a plushie of their favourite animal, etc). don't go overboard until you know for a fact you're head over heels for them

you got this anon :]

>>3571
I was also a pretty late bloomer (lost virginity in late 20s) but have been in the same relationship for almost 10 years (this summer!).
>>3588
>I just want to know where I can find good advice on how to dress, does and donts.
Open short-sleeved button up over a plain t-shirt (no power level revealing graphic tees) and a pair of slacks is a decent basic date outfit. If you wear sneakers make sure they aren't too beat up or dirty.

Bathe beforehand but don't use any overpowering scents, just deodorant. A lot of girls I know prefer "clean smell" combined with what their guy just smells like naturally. Shave if your beard/mustache is patchy, if it's not consider looking at grooming guides or having it professionally trimmed just to see what that looks like.

A good first date location is a cafe. Snack and coffee is cheap and if it goes well you can springboard it into other activities that day (a walk, a movie+dinner).

>>3589
My father is an inmate. I don’t talk to him and my mother is unwell.

>felt like normal friendships but with extra steps
I don’t have any normal friendships so I guess this won’t go anywhere.

>>3590
I’m not sure what to say or talk about over coffee.

Are there any unwritten rules for texting? I’ve never really done it before.

>>3591
Any kind of "rule" about texting is dumb. I know "bee urself" is not what you want to hear, but firing off messages as they come to you with little filter is good for showing who you really are to the person you are messaging. If they don't like it they'll ghost or dip, and if they do like you for you they'll keep it up.
>I’m not sure what to say or talk about over coffee.
Hobbies, shit you've read/watched/played recently, local news (less political). Ask her about these things as well.

>>3577
ChatGPT is a lot nicer than most and the only better, easily accessible alternative to it is reading books. Finding someone who's faithful to intellectual honesty is too difficult.

>>3588
>I wasn’t asking for you guys to hook me up or something
this makes me sad
>Jesus you people really are useless.
well it's you fault you won't let us hook you up

And she ghosted me..

>>3600
Thank the God for saving you from headache and get on with your life.

is it worth trying to find a relationship online if noone irl is like you? where would one find such place :/

>>3604
It's harder to find people "like you" online than it was in the past, but it is still the best option if you are a huge dork. MMOs and hobby communities are your best bet.

>>3604
The relationshit rat race is a trap. Free yourself.

I wonder where I fucked up :/

>>3571
Don't get it on an imageboard, you're wasting your time doing so. That's my advice.

>>3607
Bless your wisdom.

>>3571
>>3604
even if you can't find love right now, it would be good to try connecting more with people that you admire. and they don't HAVE to be just like you. that would be pretty boring.
>>3607
>>3612
love is free…

>>3618
>love is free…
yeah sure man

I found this book called The Art of Seduction and read it, I think it may be useful to others but I can't say how useful it is in the real world yet :\

>>3894
any tips you've learned from it?

>>3894
You read a terrible useless book.

>>3607
The whole dating scene has gone to shit. Internet and technology pretty much took out a lot of reason to go out (part of shopping, eating out and entertainment) while dating apps have primed people to rate by look (when men are generally just average compared to women) + apps are botted to hell and then there is global rise in obesity, also, the social media are selling a lie of "cool and rich" life, so women are looking for guys who are doing the "cool" stuff and are rich.
Hell, when it comes to my country, going out clubbing is dying out.
There is also a thing that even older normies don't actually know how to pick up a chick or give a hint of attraction, they just happened to vibe with each other because they could naturally keep meeting each other.
Interpersonal relationships are a chaotic thing and by sanitizing everything and artificially raising standards, we ended up severely limiting our options to even start one.

When i was starting out there was this website called sosuave that had an entire section called "the donjuan bible" and it had the best dating advice for that time period circa 2008…ive used those tips to get girls in the past and they mostly work.(70 percent of the time every time).

Getting girls is a numbers game,ask enough girls and soon enough you will come across one who will be receptive to your advances.