I'm in a similar boat, even though I only have a very surface understanding of stoicism it can help me immensely. For example I've always worried about how others perceive me, like when somebody says anything about me in a slightly negative manner I can't stop thinking about that for days. Or how unfair the cards I got dealt in my life are compared to others etc. What I get from that philosophy most of all is becoming better at being mindful of my emotions by not getting overwhelmed by sadness/anger I usually keep dwelling in. I have to constantly recall the advice and recognize the situation for it to help though, because I am lazy and basically picked a few pieces of advice that suited me best and rolled with it.What I can't quite get into is that many of those teachings were apparantly popular and taught by the upper crust elite, who talked about their struggles while probably owning a few slaves, which compared to the general populace of that time seems a bit pretentious. But as I said, I don't know nearly enough about stoicism, or even about history in general to be honest, I just think if some words help me work on myself then that's a good thing.Most of all, I try to stay away from philosphy because a lot of writings usally come off as too pessimistic for my taste, which doesn't seem to be the case for stoicism, or at least the parts I read about.
Depends. Diogenes the Cynic, a forerunner to Stoicism, lived in a barrel and eventually got captured and sold as a slave. (admittedly, the barrel was by choice. Diogenes was a weirdo) Other founders also had terrible things happen to them. "To live is to suffer" is the basis of a lot of philosophy because it's true. The rest is just how you deal with it.
The reason why I don't care about most philosophy is that it's generally only a bitter attitude to life trying to be sold as truth.I also don't think that kind of discussion belongs here, but that's just my opinion
You're not the only one who feels that way here.
I like Epicurus, probably because I am very nervous and his teachings are about overcoming it. Plus his theories about atoms are very entertaining.